Hey everybody! I hope this finds you well and in the best of spirits. As I was sitting here doing some work, I thought about how quickly the beginning of the year turns into the end of the year. How quickly time moves. How quickly things change. Knowing how fleeting time is helps to put things into perspective.
When I hear the phrase “wasting time”, the way I perceive it is merely doing things with time that should have been designated for something or someone else. A lot of times, the image associated with wasting time is someone sitting on the couch watching TV or glued to a game or social media or something of the sort. However, that does not always have to be the case. I will be the first to admit, I have wasted so much time. I have wasted time with the wrong people, doing the wrong thing, focusing on the wrong things and people, etc. I’m not sure about you, but initially, it didn’t seem like I was wasting time. It didn’t seem like it until I looked back and realized what was sacrificed because of not distributing and utilizing my time wisely. It was definitely an eye-opener.
Once my eyes were opened, I began looking for those same patterns in my new relationships and ways I spent my time. Basically, I didn’t want to waste my time anymore…especially with people. What I realized was that the waste of time was clear to everyone but me (it’s always easier to see from the outside looking in). Moving forward, I vowed that while still giving people and relationships a fair chance, I wouldn’t stick around knowing I was wasting my time. I had learned that in wasting my time, I was also forming the perception that it was okay to waste my time to others. Let me clarify because I even had a little bit of difficulty writing that part. Simply put, when I was allowing others to waste my time and while I was wasting time with them, I let people know that it was okay to waste my time and that I was okay with wasting my time.
There is another side to this. It seemed like those people who were a waste of time came with a lot of drama. It would eventually prevent me from forming healthy relationships because I was too caught up with the drama. It’s not that I wanted it; I had become used to it. I expected it and when it didn’t happen, I was too leery because in my mind, relationships brought drama. While I was fortunate to break out of this mindset relatively early, I know not everybody is that fortunate. I also know that I probably missed out on a lot of great people because I was too busy looking for the bad and carrying the drama from previous relationships with me instead of healing. None of it was worth the time I wasted or the relationships I threw away.
I couldn’t be mad and I couldn’t blame the people who decided not to deal with my drama because I was so used to dealing with other people’s drama. I definitely don’t deal with drama now. It’s unnecessarily draining. I now choose to surround myself with positive people with whom I grow, and I strive to be a drama free person with whom others can grow. These people don’t allow me to waste time nor do they waste mine and vice versa. Please do not mistake what I’m saying: there’s nothing wrong with relaxing. There’s nothing wrong with taking a break. However, when that becomes the normal, that is when problems can arise.
I know this was a lot and like I said, I had difficulty writing it merely due to the content and attempting to word it in a way that made sense outside of my head. If you don’t take away anything else, please take this with you: do not allow your time to be wasted. Surround yourself with positive people, while being a positive person that doesn’t waste other people’s time.
This wraps up “No Time for Drama”. Be on the lookout for the next article! As always if there’s something you want me to address please let me know! In the meantime, don’t forget to like, follow, and subscribe!
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